Racism Still Exsist!!!!!

I hate that I have to speak on this issue but it has been a big one within the porn community. Twitter has been one the biggest tools utilized to express one's feelings. I am glad that this application has been provided because it allows you to sort of gain a sense of what is on some people's mind that may smile in your face but meanwhile all along they are anticipating the moment you walk away.

There have been many comments made on twitter about Afro-American woman and men in the industry and I have just about had it. I grew up in a small town where I thought this would be a bigger issue but I have moved to California 11 months ago to my dismay that this racism is a strong issue in this state.

I have become a strong Afro-American woman and very proud of who I have become and where I am going. I have a college degree in criminal justice and will be heading back to school this spring to get my degree as an LPN. So when you try to demean who we are or what we have accomplished don't you think that makes you the word that you all so freely use which is "nigger"- Slang: Extremely Disparaging and Offensive. a person of any race or origin regarded as contemptible, inferior, ignorant, etc....... See the true terminology of the word before you decide to use it.

We all bleed the same color so I am not sure why you want to put labels on us. We as a Afro-American society need to come together and unite and form a bond with one another and stop bashing, talking down, letting one another down , fighting and just going against one another. I understand if you don't agree with something or someone but as mature adults we should be able to talk with that person and not tear them down and attempt to make them feel like less than nothing just because that may be the way you are feeling.

We should help groom one another into beautiful "Kings" and "Queens"...help lift your fellow man/woman in time of need. Don't push them further when they are down, find a way to uplift them. Don't we see that if we are unable to work with one another who else is going to want to work with us. If we are going around putting one another down what do you think the next person is going to do. We are giving them ammunition so bring back to us when we should be holding a UNITED FRONT.

There was a message sent on twitter to Valerie Luxe from Marcus London ...this was the comment @ValerieLuxe to much black cock won't get you anywhere be careful who you slag off stormy daniels the topself I should know... This was truly uncalled for this is what I mean when racism still happens in this day in age which is quite despicable. I felt that this comment was truly racist and for him to be able to say that and still have his foreground, I think is rather unfair and who is he to say because someone works with black men(his words) will not work for vivid or wicked and it will shorten their career....WTF It amazes me that this actually goes on in this industry and I hate to say this but there is a portion of the industry who supports what he says..SMDH because if they didn't then we would be equal with the Caucasian woman shooting in this industry and I wouldn't be going on 24 go-sees and out of them 17 going to say they are looking for Caucasian woman only. I wonder if the Afro-American men/woman would stop doing IR what would the industry do then, just go on strike and not do any IR(just a thought).

So we these words I leave you with this peace of mind. Acknowledge and accept who you are and help others to gain the same strength and knowledge as wisdom does not hurt only helps you to grow stronger.

Sex , Love and Relationships

Well this blog is going to be a little different than most as it will have advice for my ladies on how to play your position in your relationship, men how to treat your woman, life's struggles and just general life situations oh yeah and of course about the Adult Film Industry.

I want you all to feel welcome to provide any feedback or constructive criticism as it will all be welcome. Please know that this will be for my 18 and older readers so if you are under age please remove yourself from this blog as I would hate to corrupt you at such an early age(lol).

Play Your Position

I have had many friends come to me over the years and I go to them of course but since I have been single for the last 5 years they have been more coming to me. I have been single for 5 years by choice so please keep those smart ass comments to yourself...lmao...anyway getting to the topic at hand I have been giving a lot of advice and it has turned out to actually work out really well, so I wanted to write about it.

I know that we all go through life’s trials and tribulations through life and ladies we all know that when it comes to matters of the heart we are all in and have no sight of what is wrong. We have to start waking up and realizing that our men also have feelings and that we cannot play their game we as woman need to be strong and realize when it’s time to say "goodbye" we know that we want to hold onto him for all the wrong reasons we give ourselves so many excuses as to why we can't leave him; we don't want to see him with anyone else, he said that he loves me forever,
we have kids together, we have too much time, I don't want to deal with anyone else and we know there are many more. We need to wake up and realize that we are QUEENS if we don't realize that or treat ourselves as such who will. A man is going to treat you the way you treat yourself. We have to be classy about our life styles we have to remember that what we do as profession does not make you who you are. How you carry yourself is what makes you the
woman you are. You have to provide yourself with that sense of confidence and self worthiness. Make yourself happy someone can bring you happiness but if you are not happy with yourself then you have to know that no one can make you happy.

Acknowledge your role and play it well. Don't let other see your misery as you know people feed off that. Never ever blast over the internet that you are having problems with your dude that is so childish truly:)....You have to know that what happens in your house stays in your house. Why would you want people to know your relationship is failing you never know who is reading it could be the one that wants what you have.

Ladies I have been hearing a lot that you don't give your man head...whoa that is a definite NO NO NO you just telling him right off its okay to cheat because I am just saying you really need to handle your business when it comes to pleasing your man. You know that saying " What you don't do another woman will" and then you want to go and complain why he isn’t home? why did he cheat? well there goes your answer. If you don't know how and to embarrass to say so watch porn alone or ask a good friend. If you’re not embarrassed then watch porn with your man
or ask him how he likes it don't be scared that's the way you are going to learn what to do. Keep your confidence levels up know that you are the best and trust it will get better.

I have been hearing that ladies cannot cook.....WOW what is up with that one. There are too many cooking shows out for you not to learn. The internet is a world of information. Stop being lazy and get your asses in the kitchen and cook. Spice it up a little do it with no clothes on sometimes or in some sexy lingerie have fun with it you will enjoy it a lot more. I know some of you are saying we have kids we do it on a night when you have a sitter.

Ladies the fellas don't have to always be the romantic one take the initiative and show him your romantic side. Light some candles run him some bath water and put rose petals through the water and all over the bedroom or wherever you decide to make love. You will be surprise how many men truly like that, you will give him ideas and intrigue his interest and want him to start thinking of things to do.